When people genuinely meet the dharma, they realize it directly within themselves. So the Buddha said that he is merely the one who shows the way. In teaching us, he is not accomplishing the way for us. It is not so easy as that. It’s like someone who sells us a plow to till the fields. He isn’t going to do the plowing for us. We have to do that ourselves.
-Ajahn Chah, “Meeting the Dharma Alone”
I really like this quote. We are responsible for ourselves. Which means we are not victims of someone unless we choose to be. ~ Debra