For healthy mental and emotional growth, we need a gentle, skillful, balanced approach, avoiding extremes.
If we are becoming arrogant and self-important, the antidote is to think about our own problems and sufferings, to bring us down to earth.
But if we are feeling overwhelmed, discouraged, helpless and depressed, it’s important to reflect on our positive qualities or achievements to uplift our minds. ~ His Holiness The 14th Dalai Lama
An affectionate disposition not only makes the mind more peaceful and calm, but it affects our body in a positive way too. ~ His Holiness The 14th Dalai Lama
Everybody wants a happy life. But sometimes people, in order to achieve a happy and successful life, rely entirely on external means like money and power.
I think this is a mistake. Ultimately, the source of happiness and joyfulness is within ourselves. And once our mind is more calm and joyful, then our activities can be more effective. ~ His Holiness The 14th Dalai Lama
We can live without religion and meditation, but we cannot survive without human affection. ~ His Holiness The 14th Dalai Lama
Don’t try to use what you learn from Buddhism to be a Buddhist; use it to be a better whatever-you-already-are. ~ His Holiness The 14th Dalai Lama
It is my firm conviction that human nature is essentially compassionate and gentle.That is the predominant feature of human nature.
Anger, violence, and aggression may arise, but on a secondary or more superficial level; in a sense, they arise when we are frustrated in our efforts to achieve love and affection. They are not part of our most basic, underlying nature. ~ His Holiness The 14th Dalai Lama
Even our physical structure seems more suited to feelings of love and compassion. We can see how a calm, affectionate, wholesome state of mind benefits our health and physical well-being. Conversely, feelings of frustration, fear, agitation, and anger can be destructive to our health. This is why we are impelled to seek happiness. ~ His Holiness The 14th Dalai Lama