When we think that something is going to bring us pleasure, we don’t know what’s really going to happen. When we think something is going to give us misery, we don’t know. Letting there be room for not knowing is the most important thing of all. We try to do what we think is going to help. But we don’t know. We never know if we’re going to fall flat or sit up tall. When there’s a big disappointment, we don’t know if that’s the end of the story. It may be just the beginning of a great adventure. Life is like that. We don’t know anything. We call something bad; we call it good. But really we just don’t know.
~ Pema Chodron
Practice of giving and receiving, we take on, through compassion, all the various mental and physical sufferings of all beings; their fear, frustration, pain, anger, guilt, bitterness, doubt, and rage, and we give them, through love, all our happiness and well-being, peace of mind, healing, and fulfillment.
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Tonglen is a great practice. It does take practice also. 🙂 And not everyone feels comfortable doing this…exchange. If you do not feel comfortable with Tonglen, do not worry. There are many ways to help others and you will find one you do feel comfortable with. ~ Debra
A blogger friend of mine, CM…wrote about ‘Our Voices –and Speaking the Truth to Power’ today.
After reading her post, my words will probably make more sense. At least I hope they do.
My comment was – ‘Many pov. And each has a slice of ‘truth’ . Sometimes an aspect of truth gets lost in the torrent of ‘outraged’ voices.’
Just because you are outraged does not make the words/action/object true. My point of view…does not mean you have the same point of view. My aspect of truth does not negate your aspect of truth. Nor should your aspect of truth override mine because your are ‘outraged’ or louder than me.
It is easy to get caught up in the rush and emotional roller coaster of the many voices.
Right Speech (one of the Noble Eightfold Path) “In every case, if it is not true, beneficial and timely, one is not to say it.”
Thanks CM for the spark of this post. Enjoy and Be well all.
A few nights ago I was speaking with a friend…who looks this way and then that way….for answers…so I thought ‘if she/he would only’….then I caught my thoughts…I was making a judgement on what was best for them spiritually.
No….I cannot do that. And I certainly would not want someone to make a decision for me how I ‘should’ or ‘should not’ believe/feel.
What I did say was …’when you stir water that has a muddy bottom….your view is clouded…when you stop stirring the water becomes more clear and you can see where you want to go. And I am happy with the path I take’. She then asked….’so these things I am showing/telling you are wrong? ‘ ‘I am not saying they are wrong. What I am saying is…I stopped stirring. ‘
When I said those words (or close to them) I felt at peace with all. No judgement. no pressure. Just being.
Be well and Enjoy,
(as a comment to The Hubris of a Life Lived . )
When people genuinely meet the dharma, they realize it directly within themselves. So the Buddha said that he is merely the one who shows the way. In teaching us, he is not accomplishing the way for us. It is not so easy as that. It’s like someone who sells us a plow to till the fields. He isn’t going to do the plowing for us. We have to do that ourselves.
-Ajahn Chah, “Meeting the Dharma Alone”
I really like this quote. We are responsible for ourselves. Which means we are not victims of someone unless we choose to be. ~ Debra
What are you reading today?
Some you might know me well enough …that I read several books …or a better wording would be…I have several books going on.
I rarely just have one book that I read to exclusion of the others. I will read a little this one and then maybe some of that one…and so it goes.
For the sake of today’s post though….I will only focus on one book that *is* my primary read … No Time to Lose by Pema Chodron. I really enjoy it, her words are simple but profound. I am on Chapter 2. So far…I love it!
So? What are you reading?…and it does not have to be Buddhist reading. 🙂
Namaste…and be well,