Self Doubt

Self-doubt can riddle us with guilt and paralyze our actions.

We are all valuable people in different ways yet we sometimes forget. Opening the heart and focusing outward towards others brings confidence and courage to face adversity without drowning.

Even the thought, “we are all the same in wanting to be happy and not hurt” can elevate our mood, particularly if it is repeated like a mantra. Care brings care. It ripples outward and inward creating safety. Anxiety and fear are reduced. Meaning is cultivated. This leads to well being free of guilt.

As we mature we learn to recognize self-doubt as “old stuff” that is not functional any longer, not that is ever was functional. This is self-compassion and care of the highest order.

Emaho! ~ Dr Barry Kerzin

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Awareness is the basis…

Awareness is the basis, or what you might call the “support,” of the mind. It is steady and unchanging, like the pole to which the flag of ordinary consciousness is attached.

When we recognize and become grounded in awareness of awareness, the “wind” of emotion may still blow. But instead of being carried away by the wind, we turn our attention inward, watching the shifts and changes with the intention of becoming familiar with that aspect of consciousness that recognizes

“Oh, this is what I’m feeling, this is what I’m thinking.” As we do so, a bit of space opens up within us. ~ Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche, “The Aim of Attention” 

When we are angry we are blind to reality.

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Image by kermitlab via Flickr ~ HH The 14th Dalai Lama

When we are angry we are blind to reality.

Anger may bring us a temporary burst of energy, but that energy is blind and it blocks the part of our brain that distinguishes right from wrong.

To deal with our problems, we need to be practical and realistic.

If we are to be realistic, we need to use our human intelligence properly, which means we need a calm mind.  ~ HH The 14th Dalai Lama

Letting go of Gossip

English: Ven. Thubten Chodron

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When talking about others is motivated by thoughts of ill will, jealousy, or attachment, conversations turn into gossip. These thoughts may seem to be subconscious, but if we pay close attention to our mind we’ll be able to catch them in the act. Many of these are thoughts that we don’t want to acknowledge to ourselves, let alone to others, but my experience is that when I become courageous enough to notice and admit them, I’m on my way to letting them go.

~ Bhikshuni Thubten Chodron, “The Truth About Gossip”

What is Truth?

A blogger friend of mine, CM…wrote about ‘Our Voices –and Speaking the Truth to Power’ today.

After reading her post, my words will probably make more sense. At least I hope they do.

My comment was – ‘Many pov. And each has a slice of ‘truth’ . Sometimes an aspect of truth gets lost in the torrent of ‘outraged’ voices.’

Just because you are outraged does not make the words/action/object true. My point of view…does not mean you have the same point of view. My aspect of truth does not negate your aspect of truth. Nor should your aspect of truth override mine because your are ‘outraged’ or louder than me.

It is easy to get caught up in the rush and emotional roller coaster of the many voices.

Right Speech (one of the Noble Eightfold Path) “In every case, if it is not true, beneficial and timely, one is not to say it.”

Thanks CM for the spark of this post. Enjoy and Be well all.